R.I.P Tim, remember when we picked this song out for the slideshow? I remember that self portrait you took the surprise double exposure of the 4th of July fireworks burst I hope you kept it. I'm glad you confided in me and that you felt good to open up and I hope that helped you or even if you forgot it still lived somewhere inside that made you feel ok. I found the photos I took at your showing at Niagara bar and emailed them to your sister. A lot of people who knew you better and longer than I did are in a lot of pain right now because they loved you so much. I wrote out to your sister that love is truly stronger than grief and I believe that all those people's moments with you the love and joy they can feel and remember is what will carry get them through this tragedy. Love is the only thing that can hold a higher potency than pain and you had so much to give and share and them to you as well. Though you could feel and understood darkness and depth you contained jubilation, curiosity, love, creativity, integrity, sincerity, devotion, humor oscillating between light and dark, inquisitiveness, dedication, and explorative and humanistic, a full and fleshed good person. Your life looked so beautiful and bountiful in the photos and you looked like finally found something had settled. I'm sorry you were not finished and I'm sorry we hadn't spoken in so long. Life is tragedy but you made some beauty in it. We'll catch up in the next life.

 

 

 

 

 

R.I.P Sean

R.I.P Patti

I will always cherish this little sculpture that was just a starting point of the talented artist you would become. Sure it is not the most refined and you would graduate to rabbits but that you gifted this me, one of the first gifts I ever received from someone who was one of my first real friends. I love you and will miss you dearly despite how long it had been since we last spoke. It would have been our 20 year anniversary in October. I hope I was able to provide you with the same level of comfort and friendship that you gave me in equal measure. I hope you have found peace wherever your spirit has ascended to.

Rest in peace Tom.

Tom at Clarence's house, Fall 2000